My Encounter with a Jezebel Spirit in a Business Partner
My friend and business partner had a Jezebel spirit. From 2005 to 2010; I had another ministry and was in a partnership – a 501©3. It ended up disastrous. I had an 8-hour day job, came home, worked on the website, burnt CDs all weekend for almost 20 hours on a weekend to sell, did the books, or minister to others till about 10 at night. Basically, I did it all. We agreed for her to become president of the ministry. I eventually burned out. She would call me at work to make a change on the website. It didn’t matter that I was working; I had to make the changes right then or there, or she would pour out the guilt. Of course, I took the guilt back then and fell into doing what she wanted me to do. There was a lack of respect, and my making changes jeopardized my job.
A Jezebel doesn’t want you to have other friends. They have a Jezebel demon in them. When we did conferences, and I got any praise, she talked badly about them. She would talk back about my friends and that I needed to cut them off. The final straw was her trying to pull me away from my family, my dad, whom I cared for. Yes, he was a handful.
One thing a Jezebel will do is pound you if you do not agree with them on something. They will pound you until you believe the way they do. It is so wrong. Now I see it ever since COVID. It is ok to not agree with others. I believe in validating but does not mean I have to agree on the same thing.
My friend, she would pound me until I cried if she believed I did something I didn’t do. She would twist my words until I didn’t even recognize the problem. It was all about her, and never what she was doing was hurting me.
I knew I needed to get out of the ministry and relationship. It took time and lots of prayer and fasting to get out of her control. We had a 501©3, which felt like a marriage. I walked away from the ministry without anything. She even worked it through the board for her to get paid, and I didn’t. At that time in my life, I was very dependent on her. She got more and more of my life. I allowed it. I had that people-pleasing spirit to please people.
It is important that you become your own person. If you have a people-pleasing spirit of people, you are setting yourself up to attract those kinds of people into your life who want to control you.
She had a different teaching style than me which complimented both of us. We did weekly seminars. She was jealous if I got any compliments. I was more of an animated person. She was a deep teacher.
To see my friends, I had to sneak around to see them. Otherwise, I would get it. Most of it was my fault. I allowed her to control me. After my healing, I didn’t want it. I wanted a healthy relationship. In these types of relationships, you develop co-dependency with the controller.
Basically, Jezebel, if you try to share your feelings about her behavior, she will distort your words. Again, twist it and make it about her. She never hears your pain, etc. She would pound me repeatedly, and twist my words until I started crying. Then, she would stop.
One evening I lost it and gave it to her. She pushed every button in me.
What did she do? I get this long letter about my character flaws – 4 pages long. Then, she wanted to talk to me about it and rub it in my face. The Lord instructed me to just listen and defend myself, that he was my defender. When I told her I recorded it, she came unglued. She brought in the Calvary – the board that she knew. I never had a say. They never knew what she did to me. I wasn’t going to talk and trust God.
She picked the board. I had no say in it. It was my ministry for several years before we entered a partnership and then legal-binding contracts through the legal system as a 501(c3).
My only saving grace was the team that worked with us all saw what she was doing to me. She did break me, and ended up in bed for months.
A Jezebel is a very jealous person and wants all the praise. A spirit of Jezebel in a host is a high-ranking spirit probably right under Satan to destroy people’s lives, anointing, calling, and purpose in God.
It is very hard to get away from Jezebel friendships, especially if there is co-dependency with each other. She thinks she owns you, and having a ministry bound us together like a marriage.
A Jezebel believes they are always right.
For example, you must believe they are right on all issues regardless of religion, scripture, politics, etc. You do not contradict them. They may get mad, yell, or try to prove you wrong. Some will even send you videos to validate they are right. Unfortunately, there is a lot of wrong information. If it is scriptural, stick with the scriptures. They will even argue over scripture.
I don’t care if they are right or wrong except when it is grossly wrong and against God’s word. I will try to validate them and show them the truth. Most of the time, this is not going to work. They have to be right. Why? Because of their insecurity. They will put anyone down to feel good about themselves.
In Romans 14, a good example of our center is Jesus and what he did – died for us, raised us from the dead, and gave us everlasting life. Anything else out of that does not matter. Validate what they believe, but they need to not fight. Just say, I hear you and validate them, but say, I lean more this way. If they get upset on the phone or in person, get off the phone, or find a reason to leave nicely. Don’t stay and take their abuse. Do not argue with them. It does not do any good.
If they cannot honor what you believe and
continue to beat you down, then sometimes that is considered a toxic
relationship and may be time to end it. You hate to do that and hope to get
common ground. But, many times, there is no common ground. There is no excuse
for their pounding you to believe their way. How do you get out of the relationship when you see it is toxic?
How to get out of a relationship if needed?
Pray and fast. Check your own heart. Then, make ways to get out. I met with the board, talked about scripture as my basis, and resigned.
Unfortunately, like most Jezebels, it didn’t end quietly because one of the characteristics of Jezebel is that they have to get their opinions or abuse one last time.
She and her husband came to my house early one Sunday morning, and she accused me and said god-awful stuff. I just looked her and said she needed to forgive me for what she believed. It got uglier. I refused to fight with her. She finally left, and I never saw her again. Now, she is dead. She died of cancer. I don’t think she could ever forgive me.
She believed we were going to serve the ministry together forever. I am under her control.
When I met
with the board, I never said anything negative about her. I used scripture and
my reason for leaving.
John 12:24 KJV
Verily,
verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it
abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.
They didn’t
see the second half of the verse. Bringeth forth much fruit. It comes back to
produce more.
Why does it happen?
A people-pleasing spirit – that’s what they look for. It sets you up for their bite. You must become your own person with a voice. Having your own voice is important when working together with others. Otherwise, they take advantage of your niceness. You are easy prey.
Lack of boundaries is another factor a person must establish. When she tore me down, I eventually learned I didn’t have to defend myself. I could Walk away and not take the abuse. But most of us want to protect ourselves. Boundaries are like gates you open and close. No walls keeping everyone out.
Third, if a person is rude and pounds you down, they or not a friend. They think they are always right. They may say they care about you, but not really. You have a right to have a different opinion. Don’t say much to them.
Do they
listen when there is a problem where they hurt you, or do they twist everything
you have to say? Do they really hear you and give you respect?
What is the
bottom line with Jezebel? A spirit of deep rejection and insecurity. They need
to be suitable to feel good that they know it all. They may have deep bitterness
that has not been taken care of.
Prayers of Deliverance from Jezebel Spirit Attacks
Traci Morin, speaker, minister, anxiety coach, teacher of deliverance, Who's Who of America
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