My friend and business partner had a Jezebel spirit. From 2005 to 2010; I had another
ministry and was in a partnership – a 501©3. It ended up disastrous. I had an
8-hour day job, came home, worked on the website, burnt CDs all weekend for
almost 20 hours on a weekend to sell, did the books, or minister to others till
about 10 at night. Basically, I did it all. We agreed for her to become
president of the ministry. I eventually burned out. She would call me at work
to make a change on the website. It didn’t matter that I was working; I had to
make the changes right then or there, or she would pour out the guilt. Of
course, I took the guilt back then and fell into doing what she wanted me to
do. There was a lack of respect, and my making changes jeopardized my job.
A Jezebel doesn’t want you to have other
friends. They have a Jezebel demon in them. When we did conferences, and I got any praise, she talked badly about
them. She would talk back about my friends and that I needed to cut them off. The final
straw was her trying to pull me away from my family, my dad, whom I cared for. Yes, he was a handful.
One thing a Jezebel will do is pound you if you
do not agree with them on something. They will pound you until you believe the
way they do. It is so wrong. Now I see it ever since COVID. It is ok to not
agree with others. I believe in validating but does not mean I have to agree on
the same thing.
My friend, she would pound me until I cried if
she believed I did something I didn’t do. She would twist my words until I
didn’t even recognize the problem. It was all about her, and never what she was
doing was hurting me.
I knew I needed to get out of the ministry and
relationship. It took time and lots of prayer and fasting to get out of her control. We had a 501©3, which felt like a marriage. I walked
away from the ministry without anything. She even worked it through the board
for her to get paid, and I didn’t. At that time in my life, I was very
dependent on her. She got more and more of my life. I allowed it. I had that
people-pleasing spirit to please people.
It is important that you become your own
person. If you have a people-pleasing spirit of people, you are setting
yourself up to attract those kinds of people into your life who want to control
you.
She had a different teaching style than me
which complimented both of us. We did weekly seminars. She was jealous if I got
any compliments. I was more of an animated person. She was a deep teacher.
To see my friends, I had to sneak around to see
them. Otherwise, I would get it. Most of it was my fault. I allowed her to
control me. After my healing, I didn’t want it. I wanted a healthy
relationship. In these types of relationships, you develop co-dependency with
the controller.
Basically, Jezebel, if you try to share your
feelings about her behavior, she will distort your
words. Again, twist it and make it about her. She never hears
your pain, etc. She would pound me repeatedly, and twist my words until I
started crying. Then, she would stop.
One evening I lost it and gave it to her. She pushed
every button in me.
What did she do? I get this long letter about my
character flaws – 4 pages long. Then, she wanted to talk to me about it and rub
it in my face. The Lord instructed me to just listen and defend myself, that he was my defender. When I told her I recorded it, she came unglued. She
brought in the Calvary – the board that she knew. I never had a say. They never
knew what she did to me. I wasn’t going to talk and trust God.
She picked the board.
I had no say in it. It was my ministry for several years before we entered a
partnership and then legal-binding contracts through the legal system as a
501(c3).
My only saving grace
was the team that worked with us all saw what she was doing to me. She did break
me, and ended up in bed for months.
A Jezebel is a very jealous person and wants all
the praise. A spirit of Jezebel in a host is a high-ranking spirit probably
right under Satan to destroy people’s lives, anointing, calling, and purpose in
God.
It is very hard to get away from Jezebel
friendships, especially if there is co-dependency with each other. She thinks
she owns you, and having a ministry bound us together like a marriage.
A Jezebel believes they are always right.
For example, you must believe they are right
on all issues regardless of religion, scripture, politics, etc. You do not
contradict them. They may get mad, yell, or try to prove you wrong. Some will
even send you videos to validate they are right. Unfortunately, there is a lot
of wrong information. If it is scriptural, stick with the scriptures. They will
even argue over scripture.
I don’t care if they are right or wrong
except when it is grossly wrong and against God’s word. I will try to validate
them and show them the truth. Most of the time, this is not going to work. They have to
be right. Why? Because of their insecurity. They will put anyone down to feel
good about themselves.
In Romans 14, a good example of our center is
Jesus and what he did – died for us, raised us from the dead, and gave us
everlasting life. Anything else out of that does not matter. Validate what they
believe, but they need to not fight. Just say, I hear you and validate them, but
say, I lean more this way. If they get upset on the phone or in person, get off the phone, or find a reason to leave nicely. Don’t stay and take
their abuse. Do not argue with them. It does not do any good.
If they cannot honor what you believe and
continue to beat you down, then sometimes that is considered a toxic
relationship and may be time to end it. You hate to do that and hope to get
common ground. But, many times, there is no common ground. There is no excuse
for their pounding you to believe their way. How do you get out of the relationship when you see it is toxic?
How to get out of a relationship if needed?
Pray and
fast. Check your own heart. Then, make ways to get out. I met with the board,
talked about scripture as my basis, and resigned.
Unfortunately,
like most Jezebels, it didn’t end quietly because one of the characteristics of
Jezebel is that they have to get their opinions or abuse one last time.
She and her
husband came to my house early one Sunday morning, and she accused me and said
god-awful stuff. I just looked her and said she needed to forgive
me for what she believed. It got uglier. I refused to fight with her. She finally
left, and I never saw her again. Now, she is dead. She died of cancer. I don’t
think she could ever forgive me.
She
believed we were going to serve the ministry together forever. I am under her
control.
When I met
with the board, I never said anything negative about her. I used scripture and
my reason for leaving.
John 12:24 KJV
Verily,
verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it
abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.
They didn’t
see the second half of the verse. Bringeth forth much fruit. It comes back to
produce more.
Why does it happen?
A people-pleasing spirit – that’s what they
look for. It sets you up for their bite. You must become your own person with a
voice. Having your own voice is important when working together with others.
Otherwise, they take advantage of your niceness. You are easy prey.
Lack of boundaries is another factor a person
must establish. When she tore me down, I eventually learned I didn’t
have to defend myself. I could Walk away and not take the abuse. But most of us
want to protect ourselves. Boundaries are like gates you open and close. No walls keeping everyone out.
Third, if a person is rude and pounds you down,
they or not a friend. They think they are always right. They may say they care
about you, but not really. You have a right to have a different
opinion. Don’t say much to them.
Do they
listen when there is a problem where they hurt you, or do they twist everything
you have to say? Do they really hear you and give you respect?
What is the
bottom line with Jezebel? A spirit of deep rejection and insecurity. They need
to be suitable to feel good that they know it all. They may have deep bitterness
that has not been taken care of.
Prayers of Deliverance from Jezebel Spirit Attacks
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