Showing posts with label how to forgive. Show all posts
Showing posts with label how to forgive. Show all posts

Friday, July 04, 2025

Forgive Without Losing Yourself

There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.” — Proverbs 14:12 (KJV)

Forgive Without Losing Yourself: Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Abuse Through Christ


Forgive Without Losing Yourself: Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Abuse Through Christ

Many Christian women enduring emotional or spiritual abuse feel stuck in a loop: praying, submitting, trying harder, and yet nothing changes. Their efforts to fix the situation often seem righteous and sacrificial. But the Word of God warns us—there is a way that seems right, but its end is destruction. God wants to heal, not trap.


Love Your Enemies… Even If He’s Your Husband

“Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you...”
— Matthew 5:43–44 (KJV)

What if the one hurting you the most is the man you married? Jesus didn’t leave room for exceptions. He calls us to forgive, to bless, and to love—even our enemies. But this isn’t passive acceptance of evil. This is spiritual warfare love. It’s separation without retaliation, discernment without hate, and intercession without controlling.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean approval of sin—it means releasing yourself from the poison of resentment and spiritual death.


The Trap of Responding to Sin with Sin

As Pastor Henry Wright, Be In Health Ministries, wisely said, “Don’t make someone else’s sin your sin.” When we respond to pain with bitterness, fear, resentment, or hate, we become bound by the same demonic forces that first attacked us. That’s how the unloving spirit works—first through the abuser, then through the victim.

You may not be hitting, screaming, or manipulating—but if your soul becomes bitter, fearful, or emotionally numb, you’re in danger of the sin that leads to death (James 1:15).

“Unforgiveness is a sin unto death, which produces disease unto death. It is critical that we be like our Father and forgive all manner of sin.”
— Pastor Henry Wright


Projection, Confusion, and the Unloving Spirit

Many abusers operate under spiritual deception, believing they are loving, easygoing, or blameless. But underneath are spirits of projection, rage, fear, and self-loathing. These spirits manifest through blame-shifting and confusion. What they are internally becomes your fault. You are cast as the villain for responding emotionally to abuse.

This dynamic creates a spiritual scrambler in the wife. She begins to doubt her own experiences and emotions. She may have grown up in environments where her thoughts and feelings were dismissed, programming her to deny reality, internalize blame, and submit to spiritual control in the name of peace.


What Forgiveness Is and Is Not

Forgiveness is not:

  • Condoning sin

  • Trusting someone who has not repented

  • Staying in a dangerous situation

  • Bearing someone else’s spiritual burden for them

Forgiveness is:

  • Releasing the abuser from your judgment

  • Refusing to carry their sin into your soul

  • Letting God handle justice

  • Praying for their deliverance while walking in yours

“We have one Savior—I’m not it. I refuse to take other people’s sins into my body.”
— Pastor Henry Wright


Pray Instead of Push

Women often ask, “How can I get my husband to see what’s happening?” The answer is simple but powerful: Pray. Don’t push.

When you try to force him to act, he may resist—not because he disagrees with you—but because it’s coming from you. But if God convicts him, his heart will yield. Pray specifically that God opens his spiritual eyes, gives him discernment, and deals with him personally. Only the Holy Spirit can break through pride and deception.


Spiritual Separation Without Bitterness

There are times when temporary separation is a wise, even necessary, act of spiritual warfare. If abuse causes you to sin (bitterness, fear, numbness), you may need to separate to protect your soul. But you separate in love, not hate.

Paul said:

“It is no longer I who do it, but sin that lives in me.” — Romans 7:17 (NIV)

You can hate the sin but love the person. This is the key to spiritual clarity and compassion. It’s also how you keep your heart clean, so you don’t become what you hate.


Seventy Times Seven: Unlimited Forgiveness

“Then came Peter to Him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?
Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.”
— Matthew 18:21–22 (KJV)

Forgiveness is a continual command. Not because the other person deserves it, but because you do not deserve to live in bondage. Forgiveness brings life. Bitterness brings death.


False Burden-Bearing and Healing from Victimhood

You are not your husband’s savior. You can pray, love, and intercede, but you cannot force spiritual change. If he will not drink from the living waters himself, you cannot do it for him.

When you take on the emotional responsibility of others' spiritual resistance, you become a false burden-bearer. This opens the door to fatigue, sickness, anxiety, and oppression.

“Bear one another’s burdens,” yes (Galatians 6:2), but not carry their rebellion into your soul.


What to Do If You're Confused

If you’re unsure what’s real anymore—if you’re stuck in survival mode and confusion—know that this is a symptom of long-term emotional and spiritual abuse. You’re not crazy. You’ve been conditioned to deny your own reality.

The enemy's tactic is to keep both of you locked in a state of deception. He plants false attraction based on generational wounds. But Jesus came to set the captives free. Your first step is not to save your marriage—it’s to let Jesus save you, heal you, and renew your identity in Him.


Prayer of Forgiveness and Release

“Father, I come to You in the name of Jesus. I repent for responding to sin with sin—for allowing bitterness, fear, and resentment into my heart. I forgive my husband, my family, and every person who has wronged me. I release them from judgment, and I release myself from false responsibility. I cast out the spirit of unforgiveness, bitterness, and confusion in Jesus’ name. Heal me, restore me, and teach me to love like You. Amen.”



Written by Traci Morin
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Tuesday, July 01, 2025

Healing the Broken Heart and Wounded Spirit: God’s Path to Restoration - Part 6

Healing the Broken Heart and Wounded Spirit: God’s Path to Restoration - Part 6

Healing the Broken Heart and Wounded Spirit: God’s Path to Restoration - Part 6


“He restores my soul...” – Psalm 23:3

Focusing on God’s truth and denying Satan’s lies is not just a mental reprogramming. It is a divine strategy to overcome sin and spiritual torment through the life-transforming power of God. Healing from a broken heart and wounded spirit is critical—not only for your emotional well-being but also for your spiritual freedom and physical health.


Step 1: Acknowledge and Express the Hurt

The first step toward healing is facing your pain. The Lord cares deeply for every wound you’ve experienced. Begin by making a list—from early memories to now—of everyone and everything that caused hurt: emotional, physical, verbal, mental abuse, betrayal, or rejection.

Job, after losing everything, worshipped God and acknowledged His sovereignty (Job 1:20–22). We must do the same—acknowledge the hurt, express it before the Lord, and begin to release it.


Step 2: Deal with Anger, Bitterness, and Resentment

Don’t fear your emotions. Give God permission to pull up the pain. Cry if you must—but surrender it to Jesus.

“Be angry, and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” – Ephesians 4:26-27

Unresolved anger turns into bitterness—a spiritual poison that opens doors to the enemy. It spreads through families, marriages, friendships, and churches.

“Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.” – Ephesians 4:31
“For I see that you are poisoned by bitterness and bound by iniquity.” – Acts 8:23

Bitterness is a root that supports a demonic structure: bitterness leads to unforgiveness, resentment, retaliation, anger, hatred, violence, and murder (Matthew 20:21-24; Romans 12:17-19; James 1:18-21; Titus 3:3-5; Genesis 6:13; 1 John 3:15).

Release your pain to Jesus. "God can heal a broken heart, but He must have all the pieces."


Step 3: Forgive Others, Yourself, and Even God

Forgiveness is not a feeling—it’s a decision. Unforgiveness is spiritual cancer and opens demonic doors to torment and sickness. It brings a breach in your relationship with God and others.

“If you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” – Matthew 6:15
“A merry heart does good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.” – Proverbs 17:22

Emotional pain affects your immune system. Bitterness and unforgiveness are linked to diseases like cancer, arthritis, and heart issues. Sometimes, it’s a generational curse. But the blood of Jesus breaks all iniquities (John 10:10; Daniel 9).

Forgiving Yourself

Guilt, shame, and self-condemnation keep many in bondage. Romans 8:1 declares there is no condemnation for those in Christ. You are God’s creation—rejecting yourself is rejecting Him.

“When He speaks a lie, He speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it.” – John 8:44

Discern the voice you’re listening to: God's loving conviction or Satan’s destructive accusation.

Forgiving God

Some carry hidden resentment toward God. They blame Him for their pain or unanswered prayers. But often, their perception of God is distorted by childhood wounds, ungodly authority figures, or misunderstanding His plan.

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart...” – Luke 10:27

Unforgiveness toward God results in spiritual separation, anxiety, torment, financial loss, broken relationships, and even diseases. Choose to trust that He is good, even when you don’t understand.


Step 4: Let Go of the Past and Move Forward

“...Forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead.” – Philippians 3:13-14

Though the memory may remain, the sting is removed when forgiveness takes place. Your healed wounds become a testimony. Let God turn your pain into power and ministry.

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” – Proverbs 4:23


How to Stay Healed: The 8 R’s of Deliverance

  1. Recognize – Every thought has a source. Is it from the Kingdom of God or the enemy? (2 Corinthians 10:4-6)

  2. Responsibility – Own your responses, even if you were the victim. (Psalm 51:2-4)

  3. Repent – Turn away from sin and release it. (1 John 1:9)

  4. Renounce – Declare your rejection of sin and old agreements. (Romans 7:14-25)

  5. Remove – Cut off sources of temptation or triggers. (Matthew 4:1-10)

  6. Resist – Resist the devil’s accusations. (1 Peter 5:6-9)

  7. Rejoice – Praise is spiritual warfare! (Philippians 4:4)

  8. Restore – Help others get free. Share your testimony. (Isaiah 61:4)


How to Guard Your Healing

  • Fill your home with praise and scripture. (Ephesians 5:26)

  • Fellowship with believers. (Acts 2:42)

  • Guard your heart and thoughts. (Philippians 4:8; Proverbs 4:23)

  • Let go of the past. (Philippians 3:13)

  • Control your tongue. (James 3:6,8)

  • Guard your eyes and ears. (Isaiah 33:15-16)

  • Stay single-minded in Christ. (James 1:8)

  • Don’t idolize trauma or illness. (Daniel 3)

  • Know your identity and worth in Christ.

  • Walk by faith, not by sight. (2 Corinthians 5:7)


Scriptures for Healing the Broken Heart

  • Proverbs 12:25 – Anxiety leads to depression.

  • Proverbs 13:12 – Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

  • Proverbs 14:30 – Envy rots the bones.

  • Proverbs 17:22 – A broken spirit dries the bones.

  • Proverbs 18:14 – Who can bear a crushed spirit?

  • Hebrews 12:15 – Bitterness defiles many.


Final Word: You Can Be Whole Again

Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free (Luke 4:18). No matter how long you’ve carried the wounds, the Lord can restore you completely. If you're struggling, seek out deliverance ministry, prayer, and inner healing.


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By Traci Morin
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President of Touch of God International Ministries of Healing and Deliverance
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