Break Free from Envy, Jealousy, Holding Rejection into Place: A Call to Deliverance
video - https://youtu.be/NCA0Yi84tfM
Envy and Jealousy is like a one-eyed monster to get your eyes off the Lord. When a person feels rejected by others and believes they are rejected, this causes a person to look at others. It robs you of your peace. Rejection is a broken heart, and Jesus came to heal your broken heart, according to Luke 4:18. Today, we are going to look at what holds envy and jealousy in.
Look at it this way. We are made in the image of Christ. We are not sin, but because of the law of sin in our members, these spirit in what we believe - lies from the enemy, it gives the enemy legal right to
Goals:
- Describe the characteristics & effects of envy & jealousy
- Identify envy & jealousy working in your own life
- Participate in a group session of deliverance from spirits of envy & jealousy
- When others are jealous and sabotaging you. Steps.
- Dealing with Rejection that opens the door to envy and jealousy.
Envy and jealousy are the glue that keeps rejection firmly in place. Many believers struggle with feelings of abandonment, betrayal, or being unwanted, yet don’t realize that rejection is frequently driven by the hidden sins of envy and jealousy. When these spirits are not confronted and removed, rejection becomes a stronghold in your life—locking you into cycles of pain, comparison, and self-hatred.
The enemy is a liar. He whispers in your ear: “Look at her. Look at him. God must love them more than you. See what they have? You’ll never measure up. You’ll never be good enough.” And before long, you start comparing your walk to others. You see their possessions, their family, their ministry, their appearance, and instead of rejoicing, you murmur and complain to God. You begin to believe God does not love you or care for you.
But friend, that is not the voice of your Heavenly Father. That is the voice of the enemy of your soul. Jesus came to break these chains and to give you freedom.
Content:
• It is very sneaky
• it is a form of lust such as lust for money, things or possessions
• It is a form of idolatry (for things, money or possession)
• What you are jealous of has power over you ... even to kill you (Cain & Abel)
• Envy and Jealousy's job is to get your eyes of God.
• You are never at peace with yourself.
How Envy and Jealousy Work with Rejection
The Bible says:
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” — James 3:16
Envy and jealousy are not just emotions. They are doors for demonic spirits to enter your life. These spirits twist your perception, make you discontent, and cause you to doubt God’s goodness. When rejection comes—through family wounds, betrayal, divorce, abandonment, or failure—it builds a foundation of insecurity. But envy and jealousy keep that rejection alive.
Instead of receiving God’s love and identity, you start looking sideways at everyone else. Comparison, covetousness, and unbelief creep in. Before long, your entire life is defined by what you lack, rather than who you are in Christ.
Definitions of Envy and Jealousy:
Envy:
• To feel uneasiness, mortification, fret, grieve, or discontent, at the sight of real or supposed superior excellence, success, advantage, possessions, blessings, reputation or happiness or prosperity enjoyed by To grudge; to withhold maliciously
• Pain, accompanied with some degree of hatred or malignity, and often or usually with a desire or an effort to depreciate the person, and with pleasure in seeing him depressed. Envy springs from pride, ambition or love, mortified that another has obtained what one has a strong desire to possess.
• It is followed by rivalry, competition, malice, malignity
Jealousy:
• That passion of peculiar uneasiness which arises from the fear that a rival may rob us of the affection of one whom we love, or the suspicion that he has already done it; or it is the uneasiness which arises from the fear that another does or will enjoy some advantage which we desire for ourselves. In short, jealousy is awakened by whatever may exalt others, or give them pleasures and advantages which we desire for ourselves. Jealousy is the apprehension of superiority
• Apprehension of superiority, suspicious fear
• Jealousy is being very careful of or guarding something, not tolerating rivals. Making an icon out of a material object, person, place, or thing.
What Envy and Jealousy will keep you from:
will not allow you to be content.
• It will not allow you to be at peace, and
• It will keep you from godliness.
God/Jesus gets jealous
God (and Christ, as one with the Father) is jealous when His people turn to idols or other gods. This isn’t human envy, but a holy jealousy rooted in His covenant love. Here are key scriptures:
Old Testament (God the Father’s jealousy)
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Exodus 20:3–5 – “You shall have no other gods before Me. You shall not make for yourself a carved image… You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for I the LORD your God am a jealous God…”
Diseases:
• Rottenness of the bones - 📖 Proverbs 14:30 (KJV):
“A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.” The Hebrew word for “rottenness” (raqab) literally means decay, corrosion, or wasting away. It points to something that eats away internally.Many “osteo” diseases (like osteoporosis, osteoarthritis) involve the weakening, decaying, or inflammation of bones and joints.
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Osteo = “bone.” osteoparothis
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These conditions involve loss of strength, brittleness, and degeneration — which mirrors the “rottenness of the bones” described in Proverbs.
• Kidney stones -
Bones = strength, health, vitality.
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Proverbs 14:30 – “Envy rottenness of the bones.”
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Proverbs 17:22 – “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”
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Kidneys (KJV: “reins”) = seat of emotions, conscience, and inner man.
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Psalm 7:9 – “The righteous God trieth the hearts and reins.”
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Jeremiah 17:10 – “I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins…”
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So when the bones are affected by bitterness/envy, and the “reins” (kidneys) are affected by emotional stress or hidden sin, both can manifest in physical issues like kidney stones.
• Teeth problems, granding of teeth
Not able to have children
Biblical examples:
• Cain & Abel-Gen 4:4-8 'Korab & Moses-Num 16:1-7 -Cain killed Abel - bitterness will take you to murder.
• Sarai & Hagar-Gen 16:4-6 • Pilate-Mark 15:9-10-Sarai sent Hagar away.
Genesis 16:4-6New King James Version
4 So he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her [a]eyes.
5 Then Sarai said to Abram, [b]“My wrong be upon you! I gave my maid into your embrace; and when she saw that she had conceived, I became despised in her eyes. The Lord judge between you and me.”
6 So Abram said to Sarai, “Indeed your maid is in your hand; do to her as you please.” And when Sarai dealt harshly with her, she fled from her presence.
4 So he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her [a]eyes.
5 Then Sarai said to Abram, [b]“My wrong be upon you! I gave my maid into your embrace; and when she saw that she had conceived, I became despised in her eyes. The Lord judge between you and me.”
6 So Abram said to Sarai, “Indeed your maid is in your hand; do to her as you please.” And when Sarai dealt harshly with her, she fled from her presence.
• Isaac & Philistines-Gen 26:12-15
Genesis 26:12-15New King James Version
12 Then Isaac sowed in that land, and reaped in the same year a hundredfold; and the Lord blessed him. 13 The man began to prosper, and continued prospering until he became very prosperous; 14 for he had possessions of flocks and possessions of herds and a great number of servants. So the Philistines envied him. 15 Now the Philistines had stopped up all the wells which his father’s servants had dug in the days of Abraham his father, and they had filled them with earth.
• Prodigal son - Luke 15 - brother comes back and father throws party and other son gets jealous.
• Joseph & his brothers - Gen 37: 1-8 - sold to slavery.
• Saul and David (I Samuel 18:8-11)- Saul become angry with and hated David because David was more popular and God was with him. How many years did DAvid have to run? Saul was jealous and was driving him to kill him.
• David and his eldest Brother, Eliab, was jealous because he was chosen to be king and accused him of having pride and neglecting the sheep. 1 Samual 17:28
1 Samuel 17:28New King James Version
28 Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to the men; and Eliab’s anger was aroused against David, and he said, “Why did you come down here? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle.”
• Haman and Mordecai (Esther 5:9-13) Haman was indignant toward Mordecai out of pride because Mordecai did not consider Haman to be as important as Haman considered himself to be. Haman could not bear Mordecai being honored.
• The chief priest hated Jesus because Jesus performed miracles from God that he could not. He feared losing his position to him. His envy lead to Jesus' crucifixion. They felt threatened like Jesus was going to remove them from position. The lied about him, and continuously tried to set him up to take him out. It can cause you to lie.
Let’s examine some of the characteristics that flow from envy and jealousy, so you can identify if these spirits are operating in your life:
1. Covetousness – Ungodly Desire
Covetousness is wanting what someone else has—whether it’s their money, their position, their spouse, or their success. Exodus 20:17 warns us:
“Thou shalt not covet…”
Covetousness isn’t just about possessions; it is about an unholy craving that replaces gratitude. It feeds rejection by making you believe what you have is not enough.
2. Idolatry – False Gods of the Heart
Idolatry is anything you lean on, depend upon, or pursue more than God. It may be relationships, money, career, or even ministry. When envy and jealousy rule, your focus shifts from God to idols, and rejection deepens because idols always fail you.
3. Comparison – Measuring Yourself by Others
Comparison says, “I am either better than or less than.” Both are sin because they elevate man’s opinion above God’s truth. 2 Corinthians 10:12 warns against measuring ourselves by others—it leads only to pride or despair.
- 4. Discontent – The Death of Joy -
- Discontentment is the lack of peace, rest, and satisfaction. When envy and jealousy rule, you are never content. You crave what you don’t have, and even when you receive something, it never satisfies. Philippians 4:11 teaches us to be content in every circumstance—but envy robs us of that.
Looking at it deeper - murmer and coompalining
1. Israel in the Wilderness – Complaining Stole Their Inheritance
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Numbers 14:27–29 – God said of Israel: “How long shall I bear with this evil congregation, which murmur against me? … Your carcasses shall fall in this wilderness.”
👉 Their constant murmuring against Moses and God kept them from entering the Promised Land.
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Exodus 16:7–9 – “The LORD hears your murmurings which ye murmur against him.”
👉 Complaining wasn’t just about leaders or circumstances — God counted it as against Him.
Numbers 14:27–29 – God said of Israel: “How long shall I bear with this evil congregation, which murmur against me? … Your carcasses shall fall in this wilderness.”
👉 Their constant murmuring against Moses and God kept them from entering the Promised Land.
Exodus 16:7–9 – “The LORD hears your murmurings which ye murmur against him.”
👉 Complaining wasn’t just about leaders or circumstances — God counted it as against Him.
2. Complaining Brings Destruction
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1 Corinthians 10:10–11 – “Neither murmur ye, as some of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer. Now all these things happened unto them for examples…”
👉 Paul warns New Testament believers: complaining opens the door for the Destroyer (demonic attack, loss, destruction).
1 Corinthians 10:10–11 – “Neither murmur ye, as some of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer. Now all these things happened unto them for examples…”
👉 Paul warns New Testament believers: complaining opens the door for the Destroyer (demonic attack, loss, destruction).
3. It Reveals the Heart
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Philippians 2:14–15 – “Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God… among whom ye shine as lights in the world.”
👉 Murmuring dims your light and ruins your testimony.
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Luke 6:45 – “Out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
👉 Complaining shows unbelief, bitterness, or fear in the heart.
Philippians 2:14–15 – “Do all things without murmurings and disputings: That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God… among whom ye shine as lights in the world.”
👉 Murmuring dims your light and ruins your testimony.
Luke 6:45 – “Out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”
👉 Complaining shows unbelief, bitterness, or fear in the heart.
4. It Blocks God’s Provision
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Murmuring is essentially saying: “God, You’re not enough. You’re not doing a good job taking care of me.”
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It shifts focus from faith → fear and lack, which cuts off the flow of blessing.
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Gratitude, by contrast, multiplies blessings:
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1 Thessalonians 5:18 – “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
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Psalm 100:4 – “Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise.” Thanksgiving brings you into His presence and opens the way to blessing.
Murmuring is essentially saying: “God, You’re not enough. You’re not doing a good job taking care of me.”
It shifts focus from faith → fear and lack, which cuts off the flow of blessing.
Gratitude, by contrast, multiplies blessings:
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1 Thessalonians 5:18 – “In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
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Psalm 100:4 – “Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise.” Thanksgiving brings you into His presence and opens the way to blessing.
5. Unbelief – Doubting God’s Provision
Envy leads to unbelief. When you compare yourself to others, you start believing God won’t provide for you. This unbelief is a betrayal of God’s faithfulness, and it partners with rejection by convincing you that you’re not worth God’s care.
6. Critical Spirits – Tearing Others Down
When jealousy and envy eat at your soul, a critical spirit often follows. Instead of rejoicing with others, you criticize their successes, gifts, or blessings. Proverbs 10:12 says, “Hatred stirs up strife: but love covers all sins.” A critical spirit fuels rejection because you cannot give or receive love.
7. Competition – The Need to Always Win
Competition driven by envy and jealousy robs you of rest. You cannot relax or enjoy life—you must always outperform others. Instead of working from identity in Christ, you strive to prove your worth. This striving is a cruel taskmaster that reinforces rejection.
8. Pride – A Haughty Spirit
Pride says, “I know more than God.” It can take two forms: superiority (“I am better than you”) or inferiority (“I am worse than you”). Both are rooted in self-focus and sin. Pride is the fuel of rejection because it blinds you to God’s truth about who you are in Christ.
1 Tim 6:4) - He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings,
• I'm better than him
• Look at what I've got to offer
• They should not be placed over me and look at her
• I shouldn't have to answer to him
• I'm not going to submit to him
9. Superiority – One-Upmanship
When jealousy drives you, you feel the need to be above others. This attitude isolates you, pushes people away, and deepens rejection.
10. Self-Ambition – Driven Instead of Led
Self-ambition is the flesh’s attempt to feel valuable. It is not excellence for God’s glory—it is striving to fill the emptiness left by rejection. Philippians 2:3 warns us:
“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”
11. Control and Manipulation – Witchcraft in Disguise
Envy and jealousy often produce control and manipulation. Out of fear of rejection, you try to control relationships, situations, or outcomes. When someone does not meet your expectations, you punish them with guilt or anger. This is witchcraft—and it keeps you in bondage.
12. Fear – The Opposite of Faith
Fear is the opposite of faith. It paralyzes you, keeps you from trusting God, and fuels jealousy and envy. Fear of loss of control, fear of failure, or fear of being exposed are all tools of the enemy to keep rejection alive.
13. False Personality – Fear of Loss of Control
When you live in rejection, envy, and jealousy, you begin creating a false personality to cover your pain. You pretend to be someone you’re not, fearing that if people knew the real you, they would reject you. But this mask only leads to deeper loneliness and rejection.
14. Feeling Like an Abomination
Rejection, fueled by envy and jealousy, makes you feel like you don’t belong. You feel like a square peg in a round hole, always on the outside looking in. You believe the lie that you are unlovable, but God says otherwise. Ephesians 1:6 declares: “He has made us accepted in the Beloved.”
Strife - Envy & jealousy produces STRIFE: Jam 3:16 Practical examples:
God’s Answer: Deliverance and Healing
The good news is that Jesus came to break every chain of envy, jealousy, and rejection. You do not have to live under their power anymore. The cross of Christ gives you freedom, identity, and wholeness. But freedom comes through repentance, renunciation, and deliverance.
The posture Jesus calls us to
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Love, but be wise. Jesus taught us to love enemies and bless those who persecute us (Matt. 5:44; Luke 6:27–28).
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Don’t avenge yourself. Leave justice to God (Rom. 12:19).
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Confront in humility if reconciliation is possible. Jesus (and Paul) endorse private correction as the first step (Matt. 18:15).
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Protect the vulnerable (including your reputation and work). Loving doesn’t mean being naive — Scripture models wise boundary-setting and counsel (Proverbs, Matthew’s steps for church discipline).
2) Practical steps to take (do these now)
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Pray immediately and continually. Ask God for wisdom, peace, and protection (James 1:5; Ps. 37). Pray that God would intervene and change hearts.
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Gather facts and document. Collect dates, messages, witnesses, screenshots, incidents — calmly and accurately. This is stewardship, not revenge.
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Confront privately (Matthew 18:15). Approach them with a calm tone: “I need to talk about something that concerns me…” Give them the chance to explain and repent. Use the short script below.
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Set boundaries. If confrontation fails, limit interaction, remove access, change passwords, inform supervisors/leadership, or seek mediation. Boundaries are loving and wise.
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Inform leadership or trusted intermediaries. If it’s in a workplace/church, take it to a supervisor or elder after private confrontation (Matt. 18:16–17).
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Refuse to slander or retaliate. Keep your witness clean (1 Peter 3:9). Don’t spread accusations without facts.
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Pray for breakthrough and protection (spiritual warfare). Use Scripture to declare God’s protection and break assignments of the enemy (Eph. 6:10–18).
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Care for yourself. Reclaim rest, counsel, and wise friends. Bitterness and fear can eat you alive (Proverbs 14:30).
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If appropriate, seek legal help. For defamation, theft, or threats, use legal channels.
How to deal with others that are envious of you and try to sabotage you.
The posture Jesus calls us to
- Love, but be
wise. Jesus taught us to love enemies and bless those who persecute
us (Matt. 5:44; Luke 6:27–28).
- Don’t avenge
yourself. Leave justice to God (Rom. 12:19).
- Confront in
humility if reconciliation is possible. Jesus (and Paul) endorse
private correction as the first step (Matt. 18:15).
- Protect the
vulnerable (including your reputation and work). Loving
doesn’t mean being naive — Scripture models wise boundary-setting and
counsel (Proverbs, Matthew’s steps for church discipline).
2) Practical steps to take (do
these now)
1. Pray immediately and
continually. Ask God for wisdom, peace, and protection (James 1:5; Ps. 37). Pray
that God would intervene and change hearts.
2. Gather facts and
document. Collect dates, messages, witnesses, screenshots, incidents — calmly
and accurately. This is stewardship, not revenge.
3. Confront privately
(Matthew 18:15). Approach them with a calm tone: “I need to talk about something
that concerns me…” Give them the chance to explain and repent. Use the short
script below.
4. Set boundaries. If
confrontation fails, limit interaction, remove access, change passwords, inform
supervisors/leadership, or seek mediation. Boundaries are loving and wise.
5. Inform leadership or
trusted intermediaries. If it’s in a workplace/church, take it to a
supervisor or elder after private confrontation (Matt. 18:16–17).
6. Refuse to slander or
retaliate. Keep your witness clean (1 Peter 3:9). Don’t spread accusations
without facts.
7. Pray for
breakthrough and protection (spiritual warfare). Use Scripture
to declare God’s protection and break assignments of the enemy (Eph. 6:10–18).
8. Care for yourself. Reclaim rest,
counsel, and wise friends. Bitterness and fear can eat you alive (Proverbs
14:30).
9. If appropriate, seek
legal help. For defamation, theft, or threats, use legal channels.
8 Steps to Freedom from Envy and Jealousy by Discerning what you are thinking - Hebrews 5:13-14
How to Keep a Healed
and Cleansed Heart and the Enemy Out and
Walking in Health -
the SR's to stay restored!
1. Recognize - you must recognize the problem and the
enemy.
2. Responsibility- You must take responsibility for what
you recognize.
3. Repent- You must repent to God for participating with
what you recognize.
4. Renounce - You must make what you recognize, your
enemy and renounce
it.
5. Remove - Get rid of it once and for all.
6. Resist - When it tries to come back resist it.
7. Rejoice - Give God thanks for setting you free.
8. Restore - Help someone else get
free.
